How to start practicing self-care

By Juliana Kassianos, Transformational Fertility Coach, Yoga Teacher and Founder of The School of Fertility

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WHAT IS SELF-CARE?

Self-care is about nurturing the relationship you have with yourself, making sure that you actively take care of yourself and give yourself permission to do so.

WHY DON’T WE ALWAYS SELF-CARE?

Sometimes we feel we have to punish ourselves for things that happened in the past. Sometimes we don’t feel our body’s deserve to be looked after, perhaps they’ve failed us in some way. Sometimes we may hate who we are or who we have become and so, rebel against ourselves out of the negative emotions we feel.

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR BODY?

Facing into a mirror, say “I love and accept you just as you are” and notice where if at all, you feel resistance in your body. If you were to trace it down to its roots, where might it come from? Perhaps it comes from negative things you’ve said about yourself throughout the years or judgement for things not being a certain way or perhaps you feel part of your body has let you down. Despite how things have gone in the past, take a second now to appreciate all the tough times you’ve been through. Appreciate everything you had to do to be here today. Say out loud: “Even though... happened, I love and appreciate... about myself”. Start small and build from there until you are able to tell yourself: “I love and accept you just as you are” and feel deep down you mean it.

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

  • Why do you want to take care of yourself?

  • What does your body need?

  • What will it give you?

  • What can you do to meet these needs?

  • Do you need help to be able to meet these needs?

  • What practices help you to tune in with your body?

  • How can you do more of these practices?

THREE QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IN THE MORNING

  1. One self-care practice I’m going to do today is...

  2. One thing I love about myself is...

  3. One thing I’m grateful for is...

WHAT DO YOU LOVE DOING?

Love yourself enough to do the things that make you feel good. Make a list of the things you love doing and incorporate them as part of your daily routine. Here are some examples.

  • Listen to a song that makes you feel good

  • Have a massage

  • Book a spa day

  • Dance around the house

  • Have a warm bubble bath

  • Buy yourself some flowers

  • Give yourself a facial

  • Drink a smoothie/juice

  • Go to a yoga class

  • Watch a movie

  • Go to a new restaurant

  • Book reflexology

  • Read a book

  • Do something creative

  • Go for a walk in nature

  • Have your hair done

  • Go for a picnic

  • See something at the theatre

  • Go to a gallery/museum

  • Book acupuncture

  • Take time to meditate

  • Book a weekend away

  • Have a day out with your friends

  • Plan an adventurous date with your partner

  • Pay someone a compliment

  • Go to the beach for the day

  • Learn something new

  • Say thank you to someone

  • Share something that makes you laugh

  • Make some else smile

  • Volunteer for something

  • Have lunch with a friend

  • Compliment a stranger

  • Tell someone you love them

  • Buy yourself a present

  • Make a new resolution

  • Help someone out for free


Juliana Kassianos