How to start practicing self-care
By Juliana Kassianos, Transformational Fertility Coach, Yoga Teacher and Founder of The School of Fertility
WHAT IS SELF-CARE?
Self-care is about nurturing the relationship you have with yourself, making sure that you actively take care of yourself and give yourself permission to do so.
WHY DON’T WE ALWAYS SELF-CARE?
Sometimes we feel we have to punish ourselves for things that happened in the past. Sometimes we don’t feel our body’s deserve to be looked after, perhaps they’ve failed us in some way. Sometimes we may hate who we are or who we have become and so, rebel against ourselves out of the negative emotions we feel.
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR BODY?
Facing into a mirror, say “I love and accept you just as you are” and notice where if at all, you feel resistance in your body. If you were to trace it down to its roots, where might it come from? Perhaps it comes from negative things you’ve said about yourself throughout the years or judgement for things not being a certain way or perhaps you feel part of your body has let you down. Despite how things have gone in the past, take a second now to appreciate all the tough times you’ve been through. Appreciate everything you had to do to be here today. Say out loud: “Even though... happened, I love and appreciate... about myself”. Start small and build from there until you are able to tell yourself: “I love and accept you just as you are” and feel deep down you mean it.
THINGS TO THINK ABOUT
Why do you want to take care of yourself?
What does your body need?
What will it give you?
What can you do to meet these needs?
Do you need help to be able to meet these needs?
What practices help you to tune in with your body?
How can you do more of these practices?
THREE QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IN THE MORNING
One self-care practice I’m going to do today is...
One thing I love about myself is...
One thing I’m grateful for is...
WHAT DO YOU LOVE DOING?
Love yourself enough to do the things that make you feel good. Make a list of the things you love doing and incorporate them as part of your daily routine. Here are some examples.
Listen to a song that makes you feel good
Have a massage
Book a spa day
Dance around the house
Have a warm bubble bath
Buy yourself some flowers
Give yourself a facial
Drink a smoothie/juice
Go to a yoga class
Watch a movie
Go to a new restaurant
Read a book
Do something creative
Go for a walk in nature
Have your hair done
Go for a picnic
See something at the theatre
Go to a gallery/museum
Take time to meditate
Book a weekend away
Have a day out with your friends
Plan an adventurous date with your partner
Pay someone a compliment
Go to the beach for the day
Learn something new
Say thank you to someone
Share something that makes you laugh
Make some else smile
Volunteer for something
Have lunch with a friend
Compliment a stranger
Tell someone you love them
Buy yourself a present
Make a new resolution
Help someone out for free