The importance of physical healing
By Juliana Kassianos, Transformational Fertility Coach, Yoga Teacher and Founder of The School of Fertility
Following our missed miscarriage, Steve and I were eager to start trying again. After speaking to our Consultant, we agreed we’d wait one menstrual cycle to allow the lining of my uterus to refresh. If my period came as expected, this would give us around one month to heal both physically and emotionally, which we felt was enough time for us.
To help myself heal from a physical perspective, I went on long walks outside in the fresh air, avoided any stretching or heavy lifting, kept eating a healthy nourishing diet, and took time off work to rest and recuperate. I didn’t pay too much attention otherwise, as I presumed my body would just bounce back to normal. After all, our bodies are naturally equipped to repair our physical wounds. They automatically activate the process of healing, which is pretty amazing when you think about it – it’s definitely something I know I take for granted.
This isn’t the case when it comes to our mental repair process though. We have to allow our mind to activate the drive to heal our emotional wounds and to do this, it’s important we don’t remain hooked on our pain or on the other hand ignore its presence. For this reason, my main focus was on healing emotionally by journaling, meditating and talking through everything I thought or felt with Steve, so that I could process what had happened and get myself back into a positive place.
As it turns out, I healed emotionally faster than I healed physically as it took two months for me to have what I would call a normal period. The first month was so light, it was more like spotting, but the second month made up for it with a week-long heavy bleed. This taught me a valuable lesson in that it’s important we give our body the time it needs to heal properly. It’s all very well our minds being ready and eager to try again, but our body’s need to be ready too. Think of it like a cut on your leg. Your body has the innate wisdom to heal the cut, but it takes time. First a scab forms, then the skin slowly closes over. It’s not a process you can speed up. It takes as long as it takes.
Following our miscarriage, my body had to heal itself from the ordeal it had been through and regenerate the uterus lining to create the best environment for another embryo to form, imbed and thrive. No matter how much Steve and I wanted to try for another baby, we had to be patient, we couldn’t rush the process. After all, the last thing we wanted was to go through another miscarriage because something wasn’t right.
So, the message I want to put across is that if you’ve been unfortunate enough to have had a miscarriage or some other fertility trauma, be patient and give your body the time it needs to heal it’s emotional and physical wounds. Although you may feel the after effects more from an emotional perspective, don’t underestimate the physical aspect as it’s also crucial to your recovery.